Dom's Spidey Birthday Party

Today was Dom’s 3^rd birthday party!  The theme was Spiderman (his choice) and everything went so well.  I felt like we were much more organized this year.  I also felt a lot less stressed.  Maybe I’m just finally getting the hang of it. 

I pre made most of the food the night before.  I made tie dye (red and blue) Spiderman cupcakes along with a bunch of other appetizers and snacks like fresh veggies and dips.  It definitely helped to have it done the day before because then I wasn’t rushing around like a mad woman.

My parents got him an awesome gift.  Spiderman himself came to the party and played games with the kids, like hide and go seek.  He also did face painting, which I thought he was totally terrible at.  Truth be told, he wasn’t very good.  But the kids, especially Dom, loved it, so I can’t complain too much.

Of course we had the traditional piñata which is always fun.  When it finally got cracked open, my Mum basically trampled several small children to scoop up the candy and toys for herself.  You gotta love her. 

Matt came and had a good time.  He had emailed Rob prior, so I guess they worked out whatever they needed too.  It honestly felt so natural for him to be there and hanging out with us again. 

Dom had an awesome time playing on the playground.  He wasn’t a big fan of the sand in his shoes but he was having so much fun, it didn’t bother him too much. 

We had a great turn out, about 40 people.  Family, friends and kids that all came to celebrate Dominic turning three.  It was really nice to look around the park and see how much love we have surrounding us.

 

 

 

This was my favorite birthday party so far.  I think maybe because now that Dom is a bit older, I don’t have to be watching him like a hawk, or be holding him the whole time.  He was happy to scamper off to the swings or the slide and run around with his cousins and friends.  And that’s really nice thing about having it at Shiffer Park every year.  The playground is right next to the shelter so he gets a little freedom, but I can still see him at all times.  The best of both worlds.

 

 I’m so happy that he had a good time at his party and everyone else did too.

Revisting the Past

It’s amazing how much things can change in a few years.  It’s true what they say, time does heal.  It’s been 3 ½ years since Matt and I were in a room together.  Towards the end of our separation, things were obviously not great.  He was extremely mad and hurt that Rob and I were together, and that I was pregnant.  And hey, I don’t blame him one bit.  It got pretty heated between the two of us and I just came to terms that he and I would never be friends again.  More than that, we probably wouldn’t be in the same room together again.  I often wondered what would happen if I ran into him on the street.  Would he say hi? Would he punch me in the face and walk away?  Who knows. 

Back in January, Matt sent me an email, reaching out to say hi.  Over the past 6 months we have emailed here and there, talking a lot about what happened in our relationship, the reasons it didn’t work out etc.  We probably communicated more clearly to each other than we did the whole time we were married.  Sometimes we would email every week.  Sometimes, a month would go by with nothing.  But it all brought us to this point.

Last night, we met for drinks.  This was going to be the big test for us.  Can we be in the same room and be ok.  Not get emotional.  Find a way back to our friendship.  I knew that I would be ok with it, but I didn’t know about Matt.  But it was his idea to meet up, so I went with it. 

We met at Acapulco and to be honest, I was a little nervous right before I walked in. But as soon as I saw him and we hugged, all that went away.  We literally sat and talked for almost two hours before I realized I was late to meet Lanie for dinner.  Needless to say, it went well.  We picked up right where we left off and it was actually really nice to see him and catch up.  He’s been my friend since I was 13 years old, so not having in my life has had an impact on me.

I invited him to Dominic’s party as I knew my family would be there and they’d love to see him.  He said he’s going, so that should be fun.  I wonder how he will feel being in that type of situation.  It won’t just be me.  It will be me, and Rob and our child.  But if he says he’s ready, I have to believe him.

Fathers Day

Yesterday was Father’s Day and a great excuse for us all to get together.  The original plan was to have a bbq at the Dover Shores private beach, but someone beat us to it.  So the party got moved to Dimitri and Courts house instead.  Rob had gone to Phoenix the day before and was due to return at 3pm.  Dom and I picked him up at John Wayne and headed over there. 

 It was such a nice day to hang outside, eat some food, enjoy the sunshine.  The kids had a ball playing with water balloons and trying to get everyone wet.  Dominic is totally obsessed with the swings and was happy to have someone push him for hours.  Eventually, Dimitri showed him how to pump his legs back and forth and then there was no stopping him.

I decided to start a friendly game of soccer and it turned out to be so much fun.  It was such a mellow, easy going day and everyone had fun.  I feel very lucky to have the Daddy that I do.  He is so loving, caring and smart and I couldn’t love him any more than I do.  And Dom is very lucky to have Rob as his Dad too.  He’s always so good about teaching him things, playing with him outside, showing him how much he loves him.  Yep, we are all very lucky!

 

End of Year Recital

 

Today was Dom’s first school performance!  They did an “end of year” program where he put on a show with his fellow classmates.  Rob and I were there of course, but Mum, Lexi and Court also came out to cheer him on.  It was so sweet and amazing to see my baby boy up there, singing his little heart out.  Now I totally get why there are those parents’ that have the video camera out at these things, waving like a mad man at their kid.  That was so me.  I couldn’t stop smiling and waving.  To see him singing, acting out all the words and being such a good boy was almost too much for me to handle.   I felt such pride, it was almost overwhelming. 

American Idiot

 

Yesterday was an awesome night. Rob surprised me in the middle of the day by telling me we’re going out, he’s already arranged for Lanie to babysit, and I need to be ready at 5:30pm.  I love when he says stuff like that.  It really makes me feel special when he plans stuff like this.  I had no idea where we were going, but I knew where I wanted to go.  So badly.  I really, really, really wanted to go see “American Idiot” playing at the Performing Arts Center.  But tickets were crazy expensive and I was pretty sure the last show was the weekend before.

Well, sure enough, that’s where we went.  It was amazing!  Rob had gotten us orchestra center seats (of course) and we couldn’t have had a better view of the stage.  It was great to see some live theater and experience that with Rob.  The play was really good and gave us plenty to talk about after when we stopped by Garfs for a night cap.

It’s moments like these that re charge my batteries and make me feel so loved.